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Mental Health Awareness Month…is that what I’ve heard? Anyway…I really liked how Lois and the Counselor worked together to get to the bottom of what drove her to get angry, and, then, what she chose to share with her son…. She owned her emotions, instead of making them his fault. Doctors are always telling us to talk about our emotions. I think they’re hoping if we do it enough then we’ll get better at it. I agree with you there’s nothing wrong with getting mad, but if we realize anger was masking pain (as it often does) there’s nothing wrong with sharing that with People we are intimate with ‘cuz it lets them understand us better, builds trust and keeps things clean between us. Obviously not something you have to do if they’re not a friend or relative, but, in general, we, for our own wellbeing, need to process moments of heavy conflict enough to understand our emotional reaction was the product of an equation, and the variables were our thoughts and beliefs — so, they’re OUR emotions, no one made us feel them.
When Lois shared with her son she didn’t make less of herself or what she’d felt, she let him know what drove that reaction, why it was so powerful to her, and that in understanding it better she wanted to be closer not farther apart.